Last Friday I wrote about
monogramming and showed some fun examples of traditional and more contemporary monograms. Monogrammed linens, barware, jewelry, even leather goods make great gifts (for someone else...or for yourself)! But, before you put a monogram on something it's important to think about the style of that monogram and who it represents.
There are
varying schools of thought about how and what to monogram and like most rules of etiquette, the rules
of monogramming have been updated over the years. The style of your monogram should reflect you and there is technically no right or wrong.
Traditional
monogramming standards are rooted in a bride bringing a dowry to a
marriage—items included in her dowry would be marked with her
unmarried monogram. Things like linens and china would be considered
to be property of the woman. The man's monogram would be used on
barware, glasses, and silver.
Also, traditionally a woman would
not be given a middle name with the assumption that her maiden name
would then become her middle name. With this in mind, a woman's
monogram most traditionally consists of her first, maiden, and
married names. Many women choose to keep their middle name now, so in this case a woman can choose to use her middle name
or her maiden name in her monogram.
There is
definitely some grey area and the rules are open to a bit of interpretation
and a preference for traditional or modern monogramming
standards. With that said, it's always good to be aware of current
etiquette about how and what you monogram.
So, who better to school us on the
current monogramming etiquette than Emily
Post's Etiquette, 17th Edition? Here
is my summary of the most commonly used monograms (using the initials
of a couple named Jane Anne Bowen (married name Jane Anne Noel) and
Thomas Ryan Noel)...
For more information about more
complicated monograms, such as hyphenated last names, women who keep
their maiden names after marriage, and last names with capitalized
articles send me a note or reference Emily Post's Ettiquette.
Sorry for the wordy post...hope you learned something new! Happy Friday!